Fitting in

I've been meaning to write this post for a while now.  I guess now is as good of time as any.  This post is mainly about friends and change.  Ever since my husband and I got married and joined the married ward at church, we started noticing that no one really invites people over to watch a game or have dinner or get ready for an event together.  And while some of that is obvious, I mean you're not going to get ready for a dance with a girlfriend when you're married.  But people seem to just mind their own business.  They have their spouse and what else is needed?  I even felt this way when I first got married.  I didn't see the need for having best friends now that I'm married but there is a need.  A very BIG need!  And now I feel like I've been in the same ward for over 2 years and I still don't have really good friends.

But I can't blame anyone, I am in the "full-time working wives without kids" group.  Which means, I get home at 6 or 7, eat dinner, and spend a couple hours with my spouse or doing my own thing before bed. And on the days I do have time to hang out during the week, I am drained from work.  Some days I don't mind at all, some days are friend-lonely.  Weekends are packed up with all the things I don't have time to do over the week.

What I'm saying is that if you don't make an effort to make friends, you won't get any real friends.  I could make more of an effort myself, too.

At work I am so young and inexperienced (how could I even be married already?).  At church I am so old without kids and working all the time.  It's a strange dynamic.  But this is a college town that is driven on academic achievement, and mormons are ... mormons.  :)  I cannot WAIT to start a family, but it just hasn't been our time yet.

I''m excited to have a baby someday and finally be "in the club."  I understand tho, that being a stay-at-home mom means more time to get out and do things with other moms.  All the project groups and recipe groups that I have gone to have been a blast.   So thanks to everyone.

I guess the real point is for myself to be the change.  

I need to be the one to make the effort.  I need to make the time to have girl time.  I need to call my friends from far away up and take the time to see them.  I may not have a lot of time available but girl time is worth it!!  Kids or not, it shouldn't matter.